The Dos & Don’ts Of Chivalry
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Robin Hilmantel, was originally published on Modern
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I’m sure Carl (not his real name) thought he was being sweet when he asked,
“Can I kiss you?” But I didn’t. I thought it was cheesy as hell. Unless
you’re a “Carl,” you probably know better than to do dumb things like
request a woman’s permission before you lay one on her, or toss your blazer over a
puddle to shield her stilettos from water. But do you know how other chivalrous moves come
off these days — which ones women now consider offensive, and which ones possess the
power to (sometimes literally) charm her pants off? You will. Do:
Guide her through the roomPut your hand on the small of her back as
you’re walking together at a party or a restaurant and you might as well be George
Clooney in her mind. Just make sure to keep your hand a solid four inches above her
ass or you risk crossing into skeevy-perv territory. Don’t:
Write her a love letterSending her a sappy email about how amazing your
third date was might be cute to her after the first read, but at least one of the five
friends she’ll forward it to will convince her that the note means you’re a
player or a stalker (or both). So step away from the keyboard.Do: Open
the car door for herAny guy can (and should) hold a door open for a woman.
It’s something strangers do for other strangers entering a CVS. But you actually
have to walk to the other side of the car to open that door for us. I’m not saying
you have to do it every time, but on a first date or
a special occasion, this simple gesture can score you major points.Don’t: Insist on paying for everythingOffering to foot the
bill for dinner and drinks when you first start dating is fine. But suggesting that
you fund shopping sprees and mani-pedi appointments? Don’t do it. You’ll come
off like a showoff prick who’s enabling her to become dependent on you for
everything she wants.Do: Move her to the inside of the
sidewalkEvery woman likes to think that you’d rather she not be run
over by an Escalade. Make this move and she’ll know it’s the truth. Plus,
it’s a perfect way to show her your protective side without coming off like a
controlling jerk.Don’t: Let her winThrow the game
and she’ll know you held back and will assume that you’re sexist, or
she’ll believe you’re actually that terrible at arm wrestling or Words With
Friends. Neither scenario makes her want to see you again. However, if you’re
legitimately en route to victory, don’t rub it in her face by running up the score.
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